An unknown author said something like this:
What screws us up most in life is not that things get screwed up, but that we have a picture in our heads of how it's supposed to be....and it rarely is!
So, in those times when you think things are screwed up, try maybe to change the picture instead of the circumstances. Change the image you have, the expectations, the demands that you place on yourself and on others.
You don't do this because you are giving up though, or because you are weak or because you have lost.
You do this because you've won, you are strong, and you are giving up on the PICTURE so that you can have......PEACE!